Child walking down a tunnel toward light.

self-coaching: daydreams

High-performing people can actually lose the ability to daydream. You can be so focused on converting every idea into a plan that you forgot how to think about really big [ read more brave ]

photo of a man in Southern Kyrgyzstan carrying a baby

Self-coaching: when do we want kids?

So, Russians are weird. When the USSR dissolved and the Russians got poorer individually and as a nation, they did something no other population does. They had fewer children. Most [ read more brave ]

self-coaching: what is real?

What is the opposite of “real”? Unreal? Artificial? Intangible? Imaginary? Fake? Contrived? What are the synonyms of “real”? Authentic? Natural? True? Beautiful? Untamed? Tangible? Does real mean the same thing [ read more brave ]

Self-coaching: Growing up

How do you define being an adult? Is it a process, or an end state? Are you an adult by your own definition? Is it better to be an adult [ read more brave ]

Self-coaching: Money

In American culture, we talk about money in a few, highly specific ways. You might tell someone what you paid for your house, but you don’t mention your salary. You [ read more brave ]

Self-Coaching: Struggle

Not all coaching questions have answers. There are topics I’ll struggle with for the rest of my life, and never find a clear answer. Thinking about these questions, finding the [ read more brave ]

self-coaching: social media

This is a bit of a follow-up to the post on coping with media overload. Social media sneaks into our lives and we accept it without a lot of thought [ read more brave ]

Self-coaching: Gratitude

What has made my life better today? What am I looking forward to about tomorrow? What do I remember fondly about the past?

Self-coaching: authenticity

Is authenticity a value for you? Does authenticity have a single definition? Is it relative? Is it subjective? What does it mean to live authentically?

Self-Coaching: Love

1. What makes you feel loved? 2. How do you show love to others? 3. Do you love enough people?